Most of the people like to believe that external factors such as luck or being in the right place at the right time play a major role in other’s people successes. I believe those people, in general, are just lazy and it is just easier for them to continue being lazy and believing there is nothing you can do to improve your life than actually making efforts and having a plan.
You live next to your family and enjoy a perfect work-life balance. If I had that, I would also have kids right away. Have you ever thought that maybe the person though a lot before having kids and actually shaped his/her career based on where the grandparents live? That this decision actually required effort and it was not just a matter of luck but most likely the result of a well-thought plan?
You are so lucky, you have a high salary. If I had that salary I would also save more than 50% of my salary. This one actually applies to me. I have worked hard to be successful in the tests and interviews that have put me in this high paying salary. Not only I was rejected many times before and after going to interviews, but also I have spent weeks preparing for every interview, studying more than for an exam. Also, I have carefully planned, together with my husband, the places to live that could be more beneficial both in terms of salary, costs of living, safety, etc. and we have both focused our search in those countries. Plan + hard work + focus = success. Also, not many people would be willing to sell their car, like I did, to think thoroughly before spending your money, and rather focus on generating passive income consistently.
I believe some people just choose to be negative and unlucky. I strongly suggest reading this article from Richard Wiseman where he performed an experiment in two groups of people – lucky and unlucky – and where he shows that “lucky” people are not only more efficient in embracing new opportunities but also they pay more attention to the details that may help them thrive. Therefore, what is generally so-called luck is the result of personality factors, such as optimism, openness to new situations and less anxiety combined with the ability to notice and trust the unexpected. It is not an external factor that cannot be controlled by us.
All of us are lucky to some extent, we just need to work hard, take some risks and embrace the opportunities that come across our paths. Try to learn from the experiences of the lucky people that you meet instead of just assuming that they did nothing to achieve success. I am pretty sure that if you start changing your mindset and your behaviour you will also get lucky in the near future!